The Kid in Y-O-U

No matter how grown you think you are, the kid in you still knows more. They know how to imagine and pretend. They know how to create and see the things that aren't there. They know how to love unconditionally without judgement. They know how to properly show admiration to the ones for which they care. They understand that there's no height that can't be reached, no goal that cannot be attained. They think in beautiful colors and their minds work in miraculous ways. So as often as you can tap into the kid in you. The innocent one who hasn't allowed the ways or opinions of the world to taint or sway them. Ask them how you're doing and if you're on the right track. Listen to their advice, without doubt believe what they have to say. And if you find that kid in you is unattainable or they won't speak to you, you need to figure out what needs to be done in order to get them back.

Until next time and with much L-O-V-E, Tiffany Michellè

This Queen Thing...

On our path to the ultimate goal of Supreme Queen, we must remember what we are here to do as women of royalty. During every step we take and the decisions that we make, we must be sure that everything we do falls within the path of our purpose. When we step onto a new scene we must arrive with a common consensus as to what our goal is. We must remain focused on what matters most.

We are not only ourselves; we must understand that we represent every Black woman: Past, Present and Future. The way we speak and the manner in which we carry ourselves are being monitored at all times. The eyes that watch should mostly be of our own. Since we say that we are Sisters, we must help guide each other to the throne. It will not be handed to us easily. It was ours by right but because we forgot that we were to live in authority and we continued to think in a decrypted mentality, it was stripped away and now has to be earned. You might think that sovereignty belongs to you, but it is an entity that has to be consistently and actively pursued.

Every woman is on the mission of the Supreme, whether she is conscious of it everyday or only in her dreams. All of us should lend a hand while we figure out how to perfect this Queen Thing. Some of us tend to lay down our crown when we neglect to recall what our purpose is. We curse the next Sister whom is only attempting to decipher who she is, where she fits and how to connect with her Supreme Queen. Not your kind of Queen but her own she must realize. So while she is in the process of discovering her way; send her love, leave her alone and allow her to focus on her own throne. Just because she is not you does not mean that she doesn’t have a similar wish to pursue. When she passes, give her positive light and be sure that any negativity is subdued. You must comprehend that when you act out of anything but love, you are even further away from functioning as the Truth. I don’t know about you but any hatred thrown my way is the fuel I use to motivate me and in the meanwhile you are hurting the Queen in you.

The Queens before us worked too hard for us to disregard the path they laid. They showed us how to conduct ourselves and they continue to call upon us and push us to be brave. They remind us that everything they did was to prove what we must do. Our ancestral spirit should advise us that the upcoming Queens who follow us will only do what we do. They will illustrate what we have taught them to. They hear our every word, watch our every move and are affected by our energy. When we have passed, they will be a symbol of our ways.

So while we are living out our days, we must keep in mind that this Queen thing can be easy or it can be an ungodly fight. When you are taunted by the battles within, jump back into your true spirit and call upon your ancestral kin. Allowing any darkness within will only get you so far. You must remain in the Light and appreciate Life! Joy, prosperity and representing the love of the Supreme should forever be the goal while manifesting this Queen Thing.

Until next time and with much L-O-V-E,

Tiffany Michellé

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Who's Guiding Who?

What is that thing within us that lets us know when something is not right? Some might call it our intuition, while others may label it as their spiritual guide, their conscious, God, the Holy Spirit and so on. No matter what anyone calls it, I believe that we can all agree that this thing exists. It is that thing within all of us that indicates to us when something is wrong, out of sync or unbalanced. For the sake of this writing, I will refer to it as “It.”

So since I am assuming that all of us agree that this certain thing exists, I will pose a question: If this It is so strong that It happens continuously and It is so Universal that all of us experience It, Why do we ignore It?

I am reading a book for the second time, “Ask and It is Given, Learning to Manifest Your Desires” by Ester and Jerry Hicks. Although I have grown into an individual who has become accustomed to living within the contents of this book; I feel like I am reading it for the first time.

The passage I read today spoke of the notion that “we all create our own reality.” I am sure most of you have heard the statement before and you might or might not agree with it but that’s not the basis of this writing. The passage got me to thinking and the questions that came to me were, if we do not create our own reality:

• Why do we feel uneasy when someone other than ourselves tries to alter something in our reality?

• Why do we naturally resist when someone attempts to guide us in a direction that we don’t want to go?

• Why do we cringe when someone tells us what to do?

• Why do we oppose when someone changes or aims to change something that we chose for ourselves in regard to our lives?

I would like for you to ponder these questions for a moment and think back. Think of an experience when you made a decision for yourself and you felt good about the decision. Then you shared your decision with someone else and their opinion in regard to your decision was unwarranted or unfavorable. How about a time when you wanted to try something new in your life, maybe go back to school, start a new job or a relationship or purchase an item, you expressed this to another person and you allowed them to convince you not to go along with your decision. Later on you realized that you should have done what you desired to do and you were filled with regret. Connect with that feeling and acknowledge to yourself how that felt.

Now that I believe you truly understand where I am coming from, I will make my point. I believe with all of my heart that we were placed on this earth for a purpose and we were blessed with the right to choose for ourselves. Somewhere along the way, I feel that we forgot. We forgot that this life was about what We wanted for ourselves and we instead convinced ourselves that it was about what our parents wanted, what society wanted, what our spouses wanted and so on. We became people pleasers and we placed our desires, hopes and dreams on the back burners of our minds and we began to exist in the desires of others.

If this were not true, why do we still feel It every time someone or some circumstance attempts to or succeeds in derailing us from what We really want?

At this time do yourself a favor and read the next sentence aloud: Do I create my own reality and if not, who does?


Until next time and with much L-♥-v-e,

Tiffany Michellé

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A Six Step Process to Changing the Energy Around You

So you say you want to free your life of the people that bring you unwarranted energy but you just don’t feel like you have the strength to go cold turkey?

Here are 6 keys steps to dismissing the negative entities in your life and keeping them out!

Step 1) Praise yourself for identifying the issue and having the desire to change it:

• The first step is recognizing that something needs to be done. Until you admit that something could be better, nothing will change.

Step 2) Realize that aspiration without action is dead:

• Becoming conscious of the fact that something needs to be altered in your life is only a small portion of the journey, now you must take action!

Step 3) When dealing with a possible positive energy sucker monitor how you feel when in contact with them:

• If the feeling is not one that you enjoy, in that very moment realize and remind yourself that the only person you can change is You! (So you thought this was going to be about them huh? Not!)

o We mustn’t attempt to place our personal preferences and guidelines on other people and try to change how they communicate. We can only control how we react to their communication via our emotions.

Step 4) Decide how much of your time and energy you plan to give the person:

• When you give your time to another person whether they are giving off positive or negative energy, you are a volunteer, not a victim. In this process of change, decide how much of your time you are going to devote to this person.

• Is this a person that you are mandated to deal with? Why not allot them a specified amount of time for your attention; once their time runs out, it’s gone until the next meeting.

• Pay attention to yourself while in contact and once you have reached your predetermined amount of time or if you do not like how you’re feeling during the communication, politely exit from their atmosphere by any means necessary

Step 5) After your exit, take a moment to analyze and classify your feeling:

• Are you angry? Are you afraid? Are you emotionally hurt?

• Sometimes the way we are feeling in response to a communication “gone wrong” has nothing to do with that particular exchange. Occasionally our current emotions tap into an unfavorable experience from our past and we automatically relate it to our present.

• If we didn’t truly heal, we get defensive or we feel the same pain we felt in our past. We instinctually want to protect ourselves and our emotions, not realizing that the present feeling is not rooted from our current conversation or circumstance.

• If this is the case, you must do what it takes to deal and heal from the past pain. Pinpoint where the hurt or anger (both are rooted from fear but that’s another blog) came from and figure out how to heal from it so you can move on from it.

• Understand that forgiveness is normally the key element to healing from past emotional pain.

• If your feeling does not come from something old, you are still solely responsible for comprehending why you are feeling the way you do. Do not blame another person for your emotions because they are just that, your emotions.

• Take some time to yourself, analyze, discover the real cause of your emotions and begin your healing process!

Step 6) After all of your self analysis, nothing has changed:

• Decrease the time you have chosen to communicate with them until you can master your undesired emotional responses.

• If you find that mastering your emotions is close to impossible when dealing with the person, it is time to make a decision about this person’s presence in your life. If you decide to move on, remain consistent in your decision.
• If you have to deal with this person and deleting them from your life is not an option, return to step 2 until you have learned how to master your emotions.

Now…I am sure you noticed that every step in this process is about YOU and that is because every emotion you experience is within you and not any other person. We determine our emotions and our reactions to other people. The only way you can change ill-favored emotions is to first heal and then modify how you see things. If you continue to live unhealed you will persist to have displeasing energy and unpleasant experiences in your life no matter who you correspond with.

Notice that this is a process; anything that is going to last requires practice and time. Immediate results are desired of course but might not be realistic. Be patient with yourself.

If you find that you have to return to Step 2 several times, that’s a strong indicator that either you don’t want change, you want change but you’re not ready to work for it or you’re insane because you believe that you can do the same thing over and over and get different results. Visit your nearest therapist ♥

Until next time and with much Love,

Tiffany Michellé

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A New View, A New You

In life we are taught to create mandates and checklists in regard to the individual of our dreams. We spend endless moments in time searching for one particular person that fits a depiction of perfection. The years roll by and the failed relationships and the heart aches begin to add up. We mistakenly assume that it must be us. What we fail to understand is we unconsciously harm ourselves by trying to live out these childhood fairytales. We have been instructed to believe that the knight in shining armor and the damsel in distress are real, ready made, perfectly put together and waiting on us to find them. As we mature, elevate and self actualize, we find that all of what we were conditioned to believe was misguided. We discover that we've been bamboozled! In the words of Malcolm X, “We didn't land on Plymouth Rock, Plymouth Rock landed on us!” Instead of looking for the "perfect person" we should have been asking God for the perfect amount of patience, love and understanding that it takes to help a good person grow into the perfect person for us.

So now what? Now that we have this improved understanding, what do we do? We regroup, begin again and we learn how to erase the old, useless and ineffective thoughts and habits. We search within ourselves and we project the good within us outwardly! We try something new, something different, we step outside of our comfort zones, and we take a chance and see what happens. In this journey, remember that practice makes perfect. Consistent positive thinking is a lifestyle, a way of life and it is something that you must work at until it becomes automatic. But the benefits you will reap promise to be plentiful and your new view will assist you in seeing "expandedly". Your enhanced vision will allow the opportunities that your heart has been yearning for, to come into your renewed view. When you perfect this way of seeing, you will begin to feel and think optimistically, naturally.

Until next time, Tiffany Michellè

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