Know Who You Are!

New Year Advice: What say you Tiffany Michellé Speaks?

If you had to advise anyone using one particular statement for 2013, what would it be?

The statement that comes to my mind over and over is: Know Who You Are!

In life we are confronted with various experiences and those instances (most of the time) determine our future. The decision you make today dictates your tomorrow. Whether in relationships, careers, parenting, finances or whatever realm you are dealing with; it is so vital for you to know who you are. More importantly this is essential because when you know who you are, you are very conscious of who you are not!

Being self aware gives you a certain sense of courage, a heightened level of confidence and an effective amount of faith. When you understand who you are and what your abilities are, you are not afraid to say no whenever you see fit. You are not afraid to step out of the box and take risks. You are not afraid to ask for a promotion or start your own business. You have no worries about being single or finding a suitable mate after you decide to kick your ex to the curb!

So I say in 2013, from start to finish, decide and understand who you are, walk in your self awareness and create your year around it; grow into your essence and feel good about yourself and the decisions you make! A courageous, confident and faith-filled mentality makes for a promising reality!

I’m doing Me in 2013!

Until next time and with much L-O-V-E,

Tiffany Michellé

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Be Determined!

Today I say ~ Never allow fear to cause you to miss out on new opportunities! Sometimes we may hesitate trying out new things because we are afraid we won't know what we're doing. We are scared that we might fail. Well no one knows how to do everything and most people don't perfect anything immediately. There has to be a first time and you won't get good at anything if you refuse to even try. Step out in your strength and be courageous! You never know where your determination may lead you!

Until next time and with much L-o-v-e,

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Blue Skies

You seem to be experiencing gray daze. You've been wondering how to find the blue sky beyond those storm clouds. No matter how bad things seem to be, it is important that you never lose your heightened sense of visual capability. Have you thought about calling upon your inner self, the one that has the ability to see things your eyes cannot see. Your inner self has the miraculous ability to conceptualize things in order to make them be. Where you view only problems, the spirit within you sees an opportunity to use its gift of creativity. It is your imagination that will save you from this state of misery. The for certain being that reminds you that everything begins with a dream.

Until next time and with much Love,
Tiffany Michellè

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Never depend on other people for the motivation in regard to pursuing your dreams because when no ones around to inspire you & everyone who was there before falls by the wayside, when the support you once had is no more; you have to have something within yourself that keeps you going. It's got to be YOU...Tiffany Michellè

Naked...Vulnerable...Embracing the Unknown...Despite It All

Love is the most frightening feeling ever. Its the scariest experience in the world especially when you give your best to a person, you share your love with a person, you have faith in a person and they hurt you by not appreciating everything you are and everything you are not. The healing process and the course of re-establishing trust is a terrifying transition when you’re not completely sure if a person is capable of change. Regardless of that, you love them too much to let them go and you know they truly couldn’t have understood how much you loved them in the first place.

When we hurt, we hurt for every time we weren't appreciated. We hurt for every time we were cheated on and we were scared to trust again. We hurt for every time we were lied to and we were scared to listen again. We hurt for every time we believed in a person more than they believed in themselves and we were scared to believe again. We hurt for every time we gave more than someone else cared to and we were scared to give again. We hurt for every time our feelings were disregarded and we were scared to feel again. We hurt for every relationship where we wore the pants and we weren't the man. For every time we couldn't let go because we were afraid everything would fall apart and we were scared to submit. We hurt for every time our eyes observed them adore another, hurt masked as jealousy.

We hurt every time someone said they would but didn’t. We hurt for every time someone said they could but couldn’t. We hurt for every time a person said they wouldn’t but did. We hurt for every time we felt alone, were surrounded by people but were alone. We hurt for every tear we’ve cried that no one witnessed. We hurt for every time we gave of ourselves but emotions were deficient. We hurt for every time we were quiet but yelling within the very depths of a scorned soul; scared and hurt when that loveless expression is in your eyes that we've seen before. Hurt when that wounding tone is in your voice that you promised we'd hear no more.

In order to understand the pain, to comprehend our actions and the sentiments of our present, you must comprehend the disdained ghosts of our past ~ In order to assist us in healing in our future.

Tiffany Carr © 2011

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Knowing Thyself...

How do we know when we have reached a vital point of understanding? When we can listen to a person expressing viewpoints that are totally opposite of our own, feel no negative emotion and walk away having learned something; we have truly mastered the craft of Self Awareness.

Giving up the need to be right will relieve us from so much stress and it has the great ability to turn arguments into discussions. That is one thing that the world could benefit from, more effective discussions. Besides that it just feels better and isn’t that what life is about?

Happy Monday! Peace be with all of you…

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Loaning your moments ~ Jobs -

If you choose to work for someone other than yourself, part of taking control of your future in regard to your career is by helping a potential employer understand that you are an asset. You might feel that you need the job but they also need to prove they deserve your time and effort. So make it a point to interview them as well. Write down a few questions for your interviews to see what exactly they can provide you and where they are going as a company. What kind of benefits does the company offer? What's their 5 year plan, 10 year plan? What's the company's turnover rate? How are they doing as a company? Is there an opportunity for advancement and how often does it occur with front line staff? Never allow yourself to be intimidated! Remember this is your life and if you're going to loan out your moments, you need to be sure an employer is worthy of your experience.
Until next time & with much L-O-V-E,
Tiffany Michellè

If not Now, when?

Never allow anyone to hold you back, keeping you in your past by wallowing in old hurts. Heal, Move Forward & Make them Catch Up! You deserve to Live in the Now!! If not Now, when? You truly never know if you will have the opportunity to experience these moments again.
Until next time and with much L-O-V-E, Tiffany Michellé
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Everything you need, if you believe...

Without asking, you will receive no answer. What is it that you seek? What is it that your heart and soul desire? As the old saying goes, "A closed mouth doesn't get fed" and neither does a closed mind. If you want for anything, ask and you shall receive if you truly believe. Many times we ask, we see the signs of our desire coming near and then we think its too good to be true. When You do this you are only pushing your desire further away from you. Ask, believe and therefore receive. Nothing is too grand, nothing is too extravagant. There is an endless supply of whatever your mind can conceive, if you believe.

Until Next Time and With Much L-O-V-E,
Tiffany Michellè

The Kid in Y-O-U

No matter how grown you think you are, the kid in you still knows more. They know how to imagine and pretend. They know how to create and see the things that aren't there. They know how to love unconditionally without judgement. They know how to properly show admiration to the ones for which they care. They understand that there's no height that can't be reached, no goal that cannot be attained. They think in beautiful colors and their minds work in miraculous ways. So as often as you can tap into the kid in you. The innocent one who hasn't allowed the ways or opinions of the world to taint or sway them. Ask them how you're doing and if you're on the right track. Listen to their advice, without doubt believe what they have to say. And if you find that kid in you is unattainable or they won't speak to you, you need to figure out what needs to be done in order to get them back.

Until next time and with much L-O-V-E, Tiffany Michellè

This Queen Thing...

On our path to the ultimate goal of Supreme Queen, we must remember what we are here to do as women of royalty. During every step we take and the decisions that we make, we must be sure that everything we do falls within the path of our purpose. When we step onto a new scene we must arrive with a common consensus as to what our goal is. We must remain focused on what matters most.

We are not only ourselves; we must understand that we represent every Black woman: Past, Present and Future. The way we speak and the manner in which we carry ourselves are being monitored at all times. The eyes that watch should mostly be of our own. Since we say that we are Sisters, we must help guide each other to the throne. It will not be handed to us easily. It was ours by right but because we forgot that we were to live in authority and we continued to think in a decrypted mentality, it was stripped away and now has to be earned. You might think that sovereignty belongs to you, but it is an entity that has to be consistently and actively pursued.

Every woman is on the mission of the Supreme, whether she is conscious of it everyday or only in her dreams. All of us should lend a hand while we figure out how to perfect this Queen Thing. Some of us tend to lay down our crown when we neglect to recall what our purpose is. We curse the next Sister whom is only attempting to decipher who she is, where she fits and how to connect with her Supreme Queen. Not your kind of Queen but her own she must realize. So while she is in the process of discovering her way; send her love, leave her alone and allow her to focus on her own throne. Just because she is not you does not mean that she doesn’t have a similar wish to pursue. When she passes, give her positive light and be sure that any negativity is subdued. You must comprehend that when you act out of anything but love, you are even further away from functioning as the Truth. I don’t know about you but any hatred thrown my way is the fuel I use to motivate me and in the meanwhile you are hurting the Queen in you.

The Queens before us worked too hard for us to disregard the path they laid. They showed us how to conduct ourselves and they continue to call upon us and push us to be brave. They remind us that everything they did was to prove what we must do. Our ancestral spirit should advise us that the upcoming Queens who follow us will only do what we do. They will illustrate what we have taught them to. They hear our every word, watch our every move and are affected by our energy. When we have passed, they will be a symbol of our ways.

So while we are living out our days, we must keep in mind that this Queen thing can be easy or it can be an ungodly fight. When you are taunted by the battles within, jump back into your true spirit and call upon your ancestral kin. Allowing any darkness within will only get you so far. You must remain in the Light and appreciate Life! Joy, prosperity and representing the love of the Supreme should forever be the goal while manifesting this Queen Thing.

Until next time and with much L-O-V-E,

Tiffany Michellé

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Who's Guiding Who?

What is that thing within us that lets us know when something is not right? Some might call it our intuition, while others may label it as their spiritual guide, their conscious, God, the Holy Spirit and so on. No matter what anyone calls it, I believe that we can all agree that this thing exists. It is that thing within all of us that indicates to us when something is wrong, out of sync or unbalanced. For the sake of this writing, I will refer to it as “It.”

So since I am assuming that all of us agree that this certain thing exists, I will pose a question: If this It is so strong that It happens continuously and It is so Universal that all of us experience It, Why do we ignore It?

I am reading a book for the second time, “Ask and It is Given, Learning to Manifest Your Desires” by Ester and Jerry Hicks. Although I have grown into an individual who has become accustomed to living within the contents of this book; I feel like I am reading it for the first time.

The passage I read today spoke of the notion that “we all create our own reality.” I am sure most of you have heard the statement before and you might or might not agree with it but that’s not the basis of this writing. The passage got me to thinking and the questions that came to me were, if we do not create our own reality:

• Why do we feel uneasy when someone other than ourselves tries to alter something in our reality?

• Why do we naturally resist when someone attempts to guide us in a direction that we don’t want to go?

• Why do we cringe when someone tells us what to do?

• Why do we oppose when someone changes or aims to change something that we chose for ourselves in regard to our lives?

I would like for you to ponder these questions for a moment and think back. Think of an experience when you made a decision for yourself and you felt good about the decision. Then you shared your decision with someone else and their opinion in regard to your decision was unwarranted or unfavorable. How about a time when you wanted to try something new in your life, maybe go back to school, start a new job or a relationship or purchase an item, you expressed this to another person and you allowed them to convince you not to go along with your decision. Later on you realized that you should have done what you desired to do and you were filled with regret. Connect with that feeling and acknowledge to yourself how that felt.

Now that I believe you truly understand where I am coming from, I will make my point. I believe with all of my heart that we were placed on this earth for a purpose and we were blessed with the right to choose for ourselves. Somewhere along the way, I feel that we forgot. We forgot that this life was about what We wanted for ourselves and we instead convinced ourselves that it was about what our parents wanted, what society wanted, what our spouses wanted and so on. We became people pleasers and we placed our desires, hopes and dreams on the back burners of our minds and we began to exist in the desires of others.

If this were not true, why do we still feel It every time someone or some circumstance attempts to or succeeds in derailing us from what We really want?

At this time do yourself a favor and read the next sentence aloud: Do I create my own reality and if not, who does?


Until next time and with much L-♥-v-e,

Tiffany Michellé

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A Six Step Process to Changing the Energy Around You

So you say you want to free your life of the people that bring you unwarranted energy but you just don’t feel like you have the strength to go cold turkey?

Here are 6 keys steps to dismissing the negative entities in your life and keeping them out!

Step 1) Praise yourself for identifying the issue and having the desire to change it:

• The first step is recognizing that something needs to be done. Until you admit that something could be better, nothing will change.

Step 2) Realize that aspiration without action is dead:

• Becoming conscious of the fact that something needs to be altered in your life is only a small portion of the journey, now you must take action!

Step 3) When dealing with a possible positive energy sucker monitor how you feel when in contact with them:

• If the feeling is not one that you enjoy, in that very moment realize and remind yourself that the only person you can change is You! (So you thought this was going to be about them huh? Not!)

o We mustn’t attempt to place our personal preferences and guidelines on other people and try to change how they communicate. We can only control how we react to their communication via our emotions.

Step 4) Decide how much of your time and energy you plan to give the person:

• When you give your time to another person whether they are giving off positive or negative energy, you are a volunteer, not a victim. In this process of change, decide how much of your time you are going to devote to this person.

• Is this a person that you are mandated to deal with? Why not allot them a specified amount of time for your attention; once their time runs out, it’s gone until the next meeting.

• Pay attention to yourself while in contact and once you have reached your predetermined amount of time or if you do not like how you’re feeling during the communication, politely exit from their atmosphere by any means necessary

Step 5) After your exit, take a moment to analyze and classify your feeling:

• Are you angry? Are you afraid? Are you emotionally hurt?

• Sometimes the way we are feeling in response to a communication “gone wrong” has nothing to do with that particular exchange. Occasionally our current emotions tap into an unfavorable experience from our past and we automatically relate it to our present.

• If we didn’t truly heal, we get defensive or we feel the same pain we felt in our past. We instinctually want to protect ourselves and our emotions, not realizing that the present feeling is not rooted from our current conversation or circumstance.

• If this is the case, you must do what it takes to deal and heal from the past pain. Pinpoint where the hurt or anger (both are rooted from fear but that’s another blog) came from and figure out how to heal from it so you can move on from it.

• Understand that forgiveness is normally the key element to healing from past emotional pain.

• If your feeling does not come from something old, you are still solely responsible for comprehending why you are feeling the way you do. Do not blame another person for your emotions because they are just that, your emotions.

• Take some time to yourself, analyze, discover the real cause of your emotions and begin your healing process!

Step 6) After all of your self analysis, nothing has changed:

• Decrease the time you have chosen to communicate with them until you can master your undesired emotional responses.

• If you find that mastering your emotions is close to impossible when dealing with the person, it is time to make a decision about this person’s presence in your life. If you decide to move on, remain consistent in your decision.
• If you have to deal with this person and deleting them from your life is not an option, return to step 2 until you have learned how to master your emotions.

Now…I am sure you noticed that every step in this process is about YOU and that is because every emotion you experience is within you and not any other person. We determine our emotions and our reactions to other people. The only way you can change ill-favored emotions is to first heal and then modify how you see things. If you continue to live unhealed you will persist to have displeasing energy and unpleasant experiences in your life no matter who you correspond with.

Notice that this is a process; anything that is going to last requires practice and time. Immediate results are desired of course but might not be realistic. Be patient with yourself.

If you find that you have to return to Step 2 several times, that’s a strong indicator that either you don’t want change, you want change but you’re not ready to work for it or you’re insane because you believe that you can do the same thing over and over and get different results. Visit your nearest therapist ♥

Until next time and with much Love,

Tiffany Michellé

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A New View, A New You

In life we are taught to create mandates and checklists in regard to the individual of our dreams. We spend endless moments in time searching for one particular person that fits a depiction of perfection. The years roll by and the failed relationships and the heart aches begin to add up. We mistakenly assume that it must be us. What we fail to understand is we unconsciously harm ourselves by trying to live out these childhood fairytales. We have been instructed to believe that the knight in shining armor and the damsel in distress are real, ready made, perfectly put together and waiting on us to find them. As we mature, elevate and self actualize, we find that all of what we were conditioned to believe was misguided. We discover that we've been bamboozled! In the words of Malcolm X, “We didn't land on Plymouth Rock, Plymouth Rock landed on us!” Instead of looking for the "perfect person" we should have been asking God for the perfect amount of patience, love and understanding that it takes to help a good person grow into the perfect person for us.

So now what? Now that we have this improved understanding, what do we do? We regroup, begin again and we learn how to erase the old, useless and ineffective thoughts and habits. We search within ourselves and we project the good within us outwardly! We try something new, something different, we step outside of our comfort zones, and we take a chance and see what happens. In this journey, remember that practice makes perfect. Consistent positive thinking is a lifestyle, a way of life and it is something that you must work at until it becomes automatic. But the benefits you will reap promise to be plentiful and your new view will assist you in seeing "expandedly". Your enhanced vision will allow the opportunities that your heart has been yearning for, to come into your renewed view. When you perfect this way of seeing, you will begin to feel and think optimistically, naturally.

Until next time, Tiffany Michellè

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"As above, so below" (You say you want change, prove it!)

In my 30 Days to Fierce, Fearless, Phenomenal Empowerment for Women Life Challenge with Frantonia Pollins, we were given an assignment. We were assigned a task to rid ourselves of clutter in our physical environment. Now that might sound very simple to you BUT I will tell you that it is a process that proves to be extremely effective and essential!

”As above, so below," means that our actual atmosphere is a reflection of whatever thoughts and feelings we hold within ourselves and vice versa. I have known this to be true in my life but at times I’ve allowed myself to forget.

Sometimes we get so loaded down with life’s issues that we forget the lessons we have learned from our past. We fail to remember the truths that have saved us from stress, pain, worry and etc. We allow the bull junk in our lives to cloud our vision. Why we do this, I don’t know but I do know that we are all works in progress and learning is a process. The key is that if you truly desire change, you must start somewhere; there can be no journey without a beginning. If your life is full of clutter, chaos and confusion your physical atmosphere will show it even if you try to hide it or if you refuse to see it. It will show itself manifested in your home, your car, in your bedroom drawers, in your experiences and so on.

So last night I began my “ridding/cleansing” process and I started with my closet. I noticed that I felt anxiety while I was choosing what needed to go. At that time, I chose to be very honest with myself. I stopped in that very moment and analyzed how I was feeling and I asked myself why I was feeling that way. In my honesty, I admitted to myself that sometimes I hold onto things and people because I am afraid I'll go without if I don't. I am frightened I won’t have enough money to replace the items that I give away. I am afraid I will be alone if I get rid of certain people, even if they have proved to be ineffective in my life. The appearance of instability frightens me. Even though I know it’s only an illusion I still allow it to rob me of my freedom, my clarity and sometimes my sanity. After I finished with the clothes, I moved onto the shoes. Before I began I had to pause, brace myself and increase my will power because like most women and some men, I have a deep and devout relationship with my shoes. Because of that I assumed ridding certain pairs of shoes would be harder but once I started seeing all the "stuff" I allowed to clutter my atmosphere and hence my life, I got more excited about clearing it all out so the new could manifest itself in my reality! The freedom I felt and the pride I experienced when I was done was indeed fierce, fearless, phenomenal and empowering!

My question to you is this: Are you scared of letting go? If so, why do you hold onto things, people, habits and etc., if they have been of no good use to you? Do you have clothes, shoes and other “things” in your environment that you have not seen in the last 6 months? Do you have people in your lives that have not proved that they deserve to be around you but yet, you keep them around anyway? Do you continue habits that you know are unhealthy for you but you use every excuse in the book to continue on with them? Why?

If this is YOU, Listen closely!  We are petrified of letting go. We fear loneliness, we fear looking unstable to other people; we are scared that if we rid ourselves of the clutter that we might feel like we have nothing at all. We are afraid that if we are forced to pay attention to the mess in our lives; we will realize that we created it, that we are the cause. Who wants to admit that?! Who wants to take responsibility for the experiences in their lives? We only want to claim the good things and experiences; we blame the “bad stuff” on other folks. We fail to understand that the clutter is what is holding us back! We fail to recognize that the clutter we place in our lives is causing the stress, pain, worry and etc. and only we can get rid of it. We fail to comprehend this powerful point – How can the blessings we truly desire show up in our lives if we refuse to rid ourselves of the old things that are blocking them? We must erase those unproductive and sabotaging thoughts and replace them with productive and progressive thoughts! We must clean inside and out! We first must choose to begin our beginning NOW!

Until next time,

Tiffany Michellé

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Create and Maintain

Ladies and Gentlemen, it takes practice being positive all of the time, especially with all of the foolishness that people try to throw at you. Sometimes I wanna be like "F" you, pay me! But we have to be serious about maintaining positive energy in order to promote an uplifting atmosphere. You might have to dismiss some folks ~ exes, old friends, family, whoever...whatever. Create and Maintain your Joy and Peace, by any means necessary. ProtectYourSanity!

Until next time,
Tiffany Michellè

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Looking 4 Love in all the ______ places!

When you find yourself in a relationship that causes feelings within you that are not particularly favorable, what is your first move? 

·Do you ask yourself why this individual is continuously treating you this way but you stay anyway?

·Or do you pack your bags, flip them the bird and jump on the first thing smokin’?

If you've answered honestly about your current or past relationships, your answer was most likely closely related to the 1st option.  If you won’t be honest with me at least be honest with yourself.  We have all settled for a relationship that was less deserving than what we actually desired for ourselves.  And if you've never experienced such a relationship, kudos to you and I hope you continue on your wonderful journey of self-realization. Unless you are in complete and utter denial and therefore you will continue to be a repeat offender until you choose otherwise. 

Why don’t we leave immediately?  Why aren’t we naturally option #2 people? Why is it not our first reaction to kick the person to the curb and keep it pushing?

I am your subconscious, listen…”I love them, I see his/her potential; I see how good he/she could be if I didn’t give up on them, if I take a little more time to see them through; they will change for the better.” Blah blah blah!!!

In the meantime their ways have not changed.  They continue treating you the same while you sit on the sideline occupying an ineffective space as a blind optimist. Why? What is it about human nature that causes us to put our self-worth on the backburner in order to put someone else’s insecurities on the forefront? What is it about human nature that we refuse to see people for who they are in that moment but instead we choose to see them for who we want them to be? We invest more energy into pacifying the uncertainties of other people than we do in spending time to build and increase our self-value.

We have been brought up to believe that we are somehow divinely connected to one other human being, we call this individual our soul mate and we are undeniably convinced that this person exists. We believe that people should be coupled and we have been taught that if we are not coupled with another person (especially by a certain age); we are not as valuable as we would be if we were connected with this individual.  Wow, no freaking pressure there!!!!

What do we do because of this belief?  We spend our lives searching for this being outside of ourselves and upon finding this person we expect them to not only validate us but complete us. Even when we know beyond a shadow of a doubt that the person is unhealthy for us, we stick with them because to be without a potential soul mate we would be seen as lonely, tainted, not marriage worthy and a bunch of other bullsh!t labels that society places on single people.  

Another issue: Women, yes I am talking directly to you sweetie pies.  We are always trying to fix someone.  We want to mother our partners.  We are innately nurturing beings and we tell ourselves: “Oh, they didn’t get enough love as a child, it’s not their fault.” They just need more time to see how I'm a good woman and once they recognize it, they will change and treat me better.” We cringe at the thought of being in our thirties and still being single! I could go on but I believe you get my point. Sigh…I know, I know I’ve done it too.

So...since I have said all of this, you think I’m about to give you the ultimate solution right?  You believe I’m going to lay it all out for you plain and simple, don’t you?  Well shoot if I had all of the answers I would be stinking rich! I’d have Arab money. I would put all of my relationship solutions in a series of self-help books, sell them to you for $15 a pop, I would go on Oprah, she would promote my books and I would raise the price to $25!  Pwahaha!!!

Seriously, the only answer I can give you is You.  You must understand that if you do not present yourself as a person who deserves to be loved in a healthy manner; no one will see you as being, deserving. You cannot expect someone else to treat you as a queen or a king, if you see yourself as a peasant inside.  It just doesn’t work that way.  You have to get to a point to where you don’t look down on yourself just because you are not in a relationship.  You don’t need anyone to validate or complete you.  You have to work on completing yourself from the inside out.  You have to take responsibility for your own emotions; no one controls them but you.  You cannot keep playing the victim and feeling sorry for yourself every time you get hurt due to a relationship.  There comes a time when you must look within yourself and seek out what the real issue is. The cycle begins and ends with you.

There’s a saying that states, "You attract who you are."  So if you are walking around self-defeated, insecure and feeling down on yourself, you are only going to attract someone with similar insecurities. If a person is self-doubting, even if they don’t tell you, it will manifest in their behaviors.  Do not ignore this!  Hurting people, hurt people and you cannot save the world by acting as if you are some blind optimistic mother nurturing super being. You will only hurt yourself in the process.  You must Love within to discover Love without…

Until next time,

Tiffany Michellé

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Are you living by design or by default?

In my past life, I lived by default. I allowed life to guide me instead of guiding my life where I wanted it to go. I permitted the opinions and judgments of other people to dictate my actions and my emotions, whether they were family members that I admire, significant others or particular people I worked with. I have always been a “go getter,” so to speak but I was also a conformist in regard to my “go-getting.” I did what mostly all of us do; I graduated from high school, attended college, graduated and so on. I did what my family and society wanted me to do. I did what was expected of me. I never asked why, to me that was not an option. In addition, I never asked myself what I truly desired for my life. I even began writing by default, but later realized it was truly mine by design.

Does this behavior sound/feel familiar to you? Can you honestly say that you are living out your dreams or are you just going with the flow, and doing what’s expected of you? Do you know why you exist in this world, have you any idea what your purpose is, do you feel as if you are without purpose or does it not matter to you?

Why are we so afraid? A lot of us are terrified at the thought of going against the grain. We are scared to break the mold; we often neglect to try something different. We hold our dreams and our desires within us tucked away, only letting them out when we think no one is looking. We feel that if we do something dissimilar, other than what the people around us expect us to do, we will lose them or their love and support. But let me ask you this: If someone does not support you in finding true happiness within yourself, can you really say that they love you appropriately? Or are they attempting to put their selfish desires on us instead of allowing us to be free and to live within our wants and desires? Let’s be real with ourselves here. We might say that we are free but just because we cannot see the chains doesn’t mean that they don’t exist. Think about it, are you allowing your life to be bound by the requirements of others? (Hmmm, I got you thinking huh? Well I hope so…)

The great thing about life is that it is YOUR life so if you would rather just go with the flow, you can do that,”no worries.” But if you have even a minuscule desire to make a difference in your life and in the lives of others, you must first take responsibility for your life. It all starts with one decision and that decision is to live by design instead of living by default. If you wish to make even the smallest mark on this world before your last earthly transmission, you must decide to seek within yourself in order to discover your purpose. Believe or not, everyone has a purpose. Everything happens for a reason, including your existence on this Earth. Your life is a blessing, no matter who you are, no matter your skin color, your age, your sexuality, your gender or your profession. You matter!

As for myself, nowadays I am a realized woman, I understand who I am, I understand my purpose, I understand that I am the decider of what takes place in my life and I understand that the possibilities are endless and therefore there are no limitations to what I can do, who I can be and what I can have. I am a forward thinker. I plan my moves strategically in my head; I make my desires become real in my mind so that they can transpire in my physical reality. I live with a renewed mind and by a destiny that is mine and in everything I do, I do it by design!

Until next time,

Tiffany Michellé

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Romans 12:2 “Do not conform any longer to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind…”

Understanding Him

We often say that men and women are so different but actually that’s not true. Men have been taught that they have to be different from us women. They are raised to be hard and to act like they don’t need anyone to comfort, support and understand them. It’s not until a man gets tired of carrying the weight of the world on his shoulders or he matures and gets closer to his spiritual/nonegotistical self that he realizes that he innately needs and wants to be consoled, reassured and appreciated. The unrealized man sees him as being weak; not knowing that the stronger man of the two understands that the need to be and feel loved is not a flaw. Real strength is shown when a man does not give a damn about the opinions or judgments of others. A realized man understands and is secure in the fact that his woman’s bosom is the safest, most relieving and most loving place he can be. © 2012 Tiffany Carr

Until next time, Tiffany Michellé

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The 30 day Fierce, Fearless & Phenomenal life challenge for women with Frantonia M Pollins!

For the last 11 days, I have been participating in this life challenge group with other women across the globe. I consider myself to be a pretty balanced person who knows how to seek within myself in order to understand what is going on with me and fix what needs to be fixed. BUT let me tell you something…Sometimes it takes another person to come into your life that has been where you are and has did the work that you're currently doing, in order for you to see and seek a little deeper than you were before.

For years I have wondered why my fabulous gift in writing, didn’t match the current experiences I was having in my life. I would ask myself, why am I not some motivational and inspiring guru with millions of readers and fans? I know that I have been blessed with a gift different from any other person. This is not my current reality because my dreams didn’t match because of the manner in which I was treating myself.  My actions did not match my desires for my life. In certain situations I would allow myself to settle for less than what I deserve and by doing that I was blocking my blessings! As soon as I recognized this and immediately began to correct it, the doors of opportunity in love and business started to pour in! I am not exaggerating; it was instant!

This morning we had our first FREE conference call and as we all listened in while Frantonia spoke, another realization hit me! I am not alone! Not only did she speak of situations that I‘ve personally experienced in my life and thoughts I have created in my head but at the end of the call, other women also spoke of their experiences. Just to know that I am not the only one and that other women experience these things in their lives as well, made me feel like I could overcome these issues! No more feeling guilty for wanting and obtaining success! No more not celebrating my accomplishments! No more settling for men that don’t know how to treat a queen like me. No more surrounding myself with people that don’t consistently support me! No more Mediocrity for Me!!!

I am overwhelmed in this moment and so excited to continue this challenge. It has only been 11 days and my life has changed so much. Doing the daily worksheets has helped me with reaching deep within myself in order to seek, find and repair issues within me that are blocking my blessings in love/relationships and in my business. I am certain that the blessings will continue to pour on me and I am so grateful!

Until next time,

Tiffany Michellé

Frantonia Pollins can be reached at http://frantoniapollins.com/

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Out with the Old & In with the New

If you want your life to be different than what it is right now, you have to be willing to let go of the people, habits and things that aren't productive as well as conducive to what you want for yourself and your life experience. When you allow the old and useless things to hang around, they prevent the new possibilities and opportunities from entering into your life. You must demonstrate faith and let go in order to make way for the blessings you truly desire.

I understand that change is not always easy, especially when you have to release something that you have held onto for so long. But you must understand that sometimes we have to work for the things or the experiences we want in our lives. If you want a loving relationship, you have to let go of the pain of the past, you have to heal in order to allow your love to show and grow. If you desire financial stability; you should alter your unhealthy spending habits. If you want to be physical healthy; you have to change your diet, relieve stress in appropriate ways and exercise. Nothing worthwhile comes without sacrifice.

But I will tell you this, anything can be let go if it leads you to increased happiness in your life. Isn’t that what life is about? You being happy…

Since I love you, I will share with you a sneak preview from my upcoming book, A Soul’s Stroll: A 40 Day Journey to Discovering Spiritual Fulfillment.

Pain Changed: Never curse pain, for it promotes internal change. Without change, life would be mundane. We were not made to remain the same. Embrace sorrow, for it only exists in the presence of love and it is through our hurt that we can discover a heightened capacity to love and to forgive others and most imperatively ourselves. With each hurt, a hidden treasure, an unearthing, a lesson, an opportunity to understand and remember that, love is the greatest entity, the supreme and divine healer. Even in the midst of change we must continue to love.
© 2012 Tiffany Carr

Until Next Time,

Tiffany Michellé

http://www.literarythought.com

Dating: The Interview

Dating: Isn’t it something like a trying to get a J-O-B. First you put in your application (The flirt), Waiting for a call back (The response), Going for the interview (The 1st date), Waiting to see if they are interested in you (The callback) and then if they do hire you, the probationary period could possibly last for 90 days, if not longer (Thanks Steve Harvey, thumbs down ~ Smile)!

But seriously, sometimes dating does feel like a job and until you find that special someone you most likely are willing to work overtime trying. If you’ve been out of the dating loop for a while, it might really seem like work to you. Technology has totally changed the dating game. People don’t talk on the phone any longer, they text or email. More people meet online nowadays rather than in person because people spend more time in front of their computers and on their phones than they used to. You must find out how to bypass a person’s personal representative before you are able to meet them face to face. Where else do you spend a lot of time on the computer and on the phone? I’ll tell you where. Wait for it…at work!

So should people take dating as serious as they would if they were trying to get a job or are they totally different from one another? The process to me seems very similar and to some people finding a mate is as essential as their financial stability. When it comes down to it, if you are ready to settle down, you most likely are very serious about your dating experiences. The proof is in the pudding: We put on our Sunday's best, we ensure we are well groomed and smelling nice. Ladies we get our hair and nails done. Guys you get fresh haircuts and maybe even some new kicks. Aren’t these the same rituals we perform before job interviews? I think you get my point…

Yet and still, there are some differences between dating and a job. For one, you’re not getting paid to date, well actually you might be but that’s a different topic coming to a blog near you lol. But instead, you are paying to date; especially if you are a man (chivalry isn’t dead). If you are serious about your money, of course you are very particular about how it’s spent, right? In addition to money you are also paying with your time and I'm sure you’ve heard that old cliché, “Time is precious and not to be wasted” so we should do our best to ensure every moment counts for something worthwhile.

So the general consensus is...(drum roll please!) Dating is like work! And no matter how we try to front or fake it, we take it very seriously and why shouldn’t we? If you are looking for that certain something that could possibly last a lifetime, it should be taken seriously. And after all of the time, money, grooming and etc. we spend on dating, I’ll tell you this much...The benefits better be BOMB!

Until next time, Tiffany Michellé

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Time is of the essence

Time is our experiences in increments, each moment is temporary but can affect a lifetime. Difficult times last as long as you make them, just as good times. Don't be so distracted by your circumstances that you neglect to appreciate the essence of each moment. Grasp the lessons, focus on the betterment of self, give thanks for every experience & always take the time to smell the flowers. Love, Laugh & Definitely Live to create a better today.
Until next time, Tiffany Michellè,

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Like what you see? Buy The Book!!!

"Between Me and You" is a multifaceted masterpiece comprised of poetry and motivational thought on a ray of diverse levels. It is comprised of everything that life presents: Love, Man, Woman and Spirit. This book is entertaining, educational, enlightening and even a little sexy. Its contents touch every component of human life: Love, money, happiness, sexuality, and other real life issues that we all deal with no matter our gender, spirituality or ethnicity. It is an extremely exciting read! Available @ Lulu.com, Barnes and Noble.com and IBooks!
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Hey don't I know you??

In order to understand people, one has to be able to look beyond a person's surface. People's actions are only outward indicators of how they feel about themselves. You have to learn to not be distracted by their actions but instead you must understand the reasoning behind the actions, why the actions exist. Then you can begin to understand them better. But of course none of this is possible until you first understand your own Self.
Until next time, Tiffany Michellè

Celebrate good times, come on!! Singing of course

I've recently realized that I've been celebrating life but doing it all inappropriately. With all the hustle of life, the coming & going, the taking care of our responsibilities & etc. sometimes we forget to stop & give ourselves a pat on the back. And sometimes even a simple pat on the back might not be good enough.
I am currently participating in a 30 day fierce, fearless and phenomenal life challenge with Life Coach Frantonia Pollins and one of our recent tasks was to jot down approximately 5-6 things we have accomplished in the last 5 years. Next to the accomplishments we were asked to state how we celebrated those accomplishments. So ok I've got this, it'll be a piece of cake. In the passed 5 years, I've published my 1st book, I've gotten the job I wanted to manifest, I've purchased my 1st car (all of the others were gifted to me...I was a spoiled little sister in my former life), I've earned my Masters degree in Business & I've ended an unhealthy relationship. Alright!! Now for the celebration section...1, 2, 3 go!!! I've got nothing. But wait a minute, something must be wrong! I'm an optimist, I'm a free spirit, life is a grand blessing to me. You mean to tell me I just allowed my accomplishments to pass me by without any kind of celebratory activities? That's exactly what I did. This realization hit my chest with might and tears began to fill my eyes. I've been celebrating life but I've neglected to specifically celebrate my own life. All my life, it has been my nature to just move onto the next task without even recognizing what obstacles I've conquered and celebrating myself for my progress.
So now that I know this, now what? Now that I've realized that I've been treating myself like a red headed step child (no offense to any red headed step children in the listening audience) what do I do? I'll tell you what I'm going to do. As we speak I am treating myself to a breakfast for a champion at Starbucks : ) And after this, I'm going to go get a pedicure and possibly a massage. This afternoon, I'll go to a movie and watch not just 1 but maybe 2 movies. You've guessed it, I'm theatre hopping and later I'll join my rainbow coalition buddies for the Las Vegas PRIDE Parade and a night of good ole Sin City sin! This might not sound like a lot to some but its more than what I've done for myself in a long while and I'm excited about it! And this is just the beginning of me not just celebrating life but even more specifically celebrating MY LIFE!
Never forget about you! Life is not always smoove sailing, all of us weren't born with a silver spoon in our mouths and we have climbed some pretty steep hills to get where we are. Recognize your accomplishments and celebrate yourself!! If no one else gives you kudos for what you've accomplished thus far, forget them give yourself a high five and treat yourself to some good ole Starbucks lol.
Until next time, Tiffany Michellè

Give it up!!

How can you be blessed if you don't take the time to give? Money is always your 1st thought in regard to giving, right? Well let's flip the script!! How about this: Give up your WORRY, give up your PAIN, give up your STRIFE, give up JEALOUSY, give up SELF DEFEATING THOUGHTS, give up your INSECURITIES!!! Whatever you do just GIVE! And sit back & watch the BLESSINGS pour upon You!!!
Until next time, Tiffany Michellè

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Helping heals...

No matter how much emotional pain you've experienced, please understand your magnificent power to heal. Focus on feeling better. Feed the homeless, donate your time in a helpful way, it'll help you gain great perspective and make you feel so much better. Elevation always bring clarity. Live well & prosper my loves.
Until next time, Tiffany Michellè

You've got a friend in me

PSA: Quit holding onto people who don’t show U unconditional ♥. If U feel Ur lacking in the ♥ department, go w/in order 2 feed yourself the ♥ U deserve. There’s no such thing as a fair weather friend. Friends are there 4 U when Ur doing well & when U aren’t. Friends are with U no matter what U do, they will tell U when Ur wrong & they’ll support U when U need them 2. They don’t judge but instead they accept U 4 being U. They don’t change depending on who’s around. If a person only shows U ♥, when Ur doing what they want U 2 do but they complain or try 2 change U when Ur not, that isn’t ♥ & they’re not a friend. Get comfortable w/ rolling solo; be Ur own best friend, a relationship w/ yourself is highly necessary. Understand that true friendship is complimentary & should last a lifetime, maybe 2…

Until Next Time, Tiffany Michellé (ATrueFriend)

No hand-me-downs please!!!

For the life of me, I cannot figure why I keep getting approached by either married men or men who are unmarried but supposedly dating one woman keep approaching me with flirtatious intentions. It's like I have a stamp on my forehead that states, "Hey come talk to me, I like other women's sloppy seconds." I mean really the only time being someone's mistress has any value is when being someone's mistress has a monetary value. (Just kidding, ok no I'm not lol.)

But seriously what is it about a person that makes them step outside their relationship on a regular basis to seek things from other people? Why is one person not enough?

When a person consistently steps outside of themselves to get some kind of gain from another person, do they feel as if they are lacking something that they cannot get from themselves? It's an insecurity. These are the people that think and live by the notion that it takes someone else to make them happy. They think that their thirst can only be quenched by other people fulfilling it. They are "the takers."
Being a taker's "giver" will only suffice if the giver is also either insecure and thinks it takes to have a taker to be happy or the giver is ignorant of the taker's other relationship and is in the bliss state and therefore hears no evil, sees no evil or the giver is an uncover taker but the 1st taker is unaware that the giver has an ulterior motive, for example a monetary motive, wink wink.

This game can go many rounds for some people but once a person become realized and understands what they want out of life and they yearn true love, quick fixes no longer tantalize their taste buds. They desire a flavor they can savor, something real and lifetime long. They understand that their time and space are much too precious, their existence is of value and they are not just a piece of @$$. So to the taker they can profess... "Thank you but no thank you. In regard to your hand me downs, I'll pass. I have no issues waiting for something that is promised to last."

Until next time...

Focus

Your thoughts are cluttered, your focus has no direction, your clarity is blurry, you're unaware of where you should point your sight to. Its really simple, put all of your attention on the betterment of Y-O-U.

When you're at a point in your life to where you don't know what to do, every fork in the road should always lead you back to you. No matter how difficult your decisions or your circumstances may be, the solution is always & forever will be, to go within for the answers you seek.
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Single in Sin City

I was raised by 2 great men ~ my older brothers. They weren’t perfect but they took care of me like a princess, they taught me how to be independent, they told me that if a man could not care for me like they did, he didn’t deserve me. They spoiled the heck out of me and set me up to be a dating failure; they just didn’t know it! Lol just kidding kind of… As I grew into a queen, for some reason I adopted a mindset that all men were kings & to be treated as such. Reality has proved otherwise, the kings I have had the pleasure to meet have been few & far between. I’ve have met a lot of jesters though. So nowadays this has me wondering… Is this them or is it me?
I know too many women…Excellent women, educated, independent, good providers with great personalities who are; yes you guessed it S-I-N-G-L-E!
It seems like the more educated a woman is or the more financially independent she is, the smaller and smaller her dating pool is. If I hear that a man is intimidated by me, one more time I am literally going to scream, yes at the top of my lungs, scream AHHHHHHHHH!!!
What is it about today’s man that is afraid of a strong woman? You would think that a man would want someone who can take care of his home, care for his children, satisfy his every need in the bedroom and run a business all in one breath! That is not the case. Is there such a thing as being too strong? What about the women who can do all of the above and still make him feel like a man; why is she still at home twiddling her thumbs every weekend waiting for the phone to ring?
Are men even settling down anymore?  It really appears as if most men would rather remain single. Is being unattached a curse to women but a blessing to men, maybe so I don’t know.
It seems like the only options a girl has is to settle for that man who she knows is no good for her or get with the one with multiple women and just hope she’s next in line or she can keep twiddling her thumbs, hoping and praying that the sweet Lawd will bless her with her knight in shining armor and hope that he shows up before her garage is full of cobwebs. I don’t suggest she do the first two so you tell me…what’s a girl to do?
Until next time...

Tiffany Michellé

www.literarythought.com

Good stuff

Remind yourselves that we, people were created good. Focus on that until its all you see. Soon it be all that you experience. Tiffany Carr

A decision, the death of all other options...

"All you have to do is decide and then act on that decision, God will take care of the rest." Tiffany Michellè

Forward Vision

"Never allow circumstances to distract you from seeing the people behind them." © 2012 Tiffany Carr

Same Difference

The entire Universe and every person, place and thing in It, is a reflection of God form in diverse multiplicity. Despite the fact that we may physically appear differently, we are Divine specifically. Specks of Light in Gods Eye...Much love to all...LT

Without price...

A person without knowledge is only worth as much as their opinion and in the grand scheme of this experience called life, the judgments of others don't hold much value.
Tiffany Michellè

Let it go...

Allow the promise of the future to motivate and inspire you to look forward, beyond your past.

TODAY

Let today be today by allowing the woes of yesterday to fade away. New blessings & fresh opportunities desire to flow your way TODAY!

Life

Life is consistent, Life is gradual, Life is fast & Life is slow. Life is a lot of things but one thing that Life is not, is Stagnant. Life always goes on & so should you.

A Little Reminder...

At times we forget our value. We are so busy focusing on the things we have yet to accomplish that we fail to recognize how far we have come. No matter what you regret from your past, be sure to give yourself some credit in your present. Pat yourself on the back for making it this far, for deciding to put one foot in front of the other, for getting out of bed this morning and not giving up. If you're reading this, you have another chance to be what you choose to be and to do what you desire to do. You ain't so bad after all, my friend...Love & Light      

Overqualified

Being a woman as me and as she is not easy to say the least. Our intelligence causes them to vamoose; so many flee that we have few to choose. Our strong drive to succeed is so fierce, so severe that it sometimes has us unaccompanied. Continuously inquiring about my relationship status, constantly asked, “Why are you single?” Well see what had happened was, I developed these things called standards and when I did that, that depleted my resource pool by nearly half if not more and when I got my 1st degree, that closed several more doors. Upon completion of my 2nd, I might as well be totally disconnected. For you see, men do not perceive me beyond my independence or my conscious state of mind. My conversation about numerology, the state of our people and the planets has me tossed to the side. They would rather be in the company of a woman who is damaged. Act like a regular girl, they say; I have no idea what that means and I would not dare try to figure it out. I walk with my head held high functioning with the utmost esteem but I cannot lie, at times I just want to violently shout! Ahhhh!!!! When will I be graced upon, when will I manifest my king? One that is free, not only mentally but physically and not one serving 10 to 20. For the life of me, I know there must be One brotha out here, somewhere out there for she and for me. Not allowing life precious moments to pass us by; we will continue to be free indeed. © 2011 TM Carr